FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
Q. I'm having difficulties with one of my bridesmaids and I'm regretting
asking her to be in my wedding. Is there anyway I can tell her I don't
want her to be in the wedding anymore?
Q. My Mother is insisting that we include my cousin as a bridesmaid. I was
just using close friends as bridesmaids-what do I do?
- A. Unfortunately, this gets to be a common thing. Rather than losing a
friend and a bridesmaid, have a heart to heart talk with her and express
the issues you are seeing as the problem and allow her to share her side of
things. See if you can work the problems out and whether she still wants
to be in the wedding.
Q. My bridesmaids are all very different sizes and shapes. How do I make
everyone happy when choosing their dresses?
- A. While your mother probably sees your cousin as someone who would enjoy
the experience, you should invite individuals to be in your wedding party
because they care about you and not out of guilt or obligation. This is
one of the biggest days of your life and you should include those who share
Q. We want to invite our friends to our wedding but don't want them to
bring their children. How do we put this on the invitation?
- A. One way of handling this is to choose the fabric and color for the
dresses and then allow your bridesmaids to choose their own style. If
different dresses isn't your thing, then look for empire-waist or a-line
dresses, which are flattering to any body type. You could also look to add
wraps or sleeves to the dresses.
Q. Should we put where we are registered on the invitations?
- A. If you don't want the children to attend, just name the card to the
couple. When an invitation doesn't include "The Smith Family" or "Mr. &
Mrs. Smith and Family" or include the children by name, guests should not
assume that the children are invited as well. Since many people are aware
of this etiquette rule, you many think about having your invitation state
"Adult Reception." But I would stay away from it stating "Adults Only" or
"No Children". You also may want to call the couples who you feel might
potentially bring their children and inform them what kind of reception you
are holding. Another idea you might use is to provide your guests a
babysitter in another room.
Q. My fiancé and I bought a new house and would prefer money instead of
actual gifts. Is there anyway to tell our guests that this is what we want?
- A. While we're seeing it more and more lately, it's still considered bad
taste to do it. Word of mouth is still the best way to handle these things.
If you have wedding etiquette questions, email them to Lucy!
- A. Like the previous question, it is in bad taste to put this on the
invitation. The best way to handle this is to tell your family and allow
them to spread this information word of mouth. Register in places where
you need things for the house like Home Depot.